Couples

Couples Therapy

Relationships and mental health go hand in hand.

Improving your relationship will take dedication, focused effort and consistency of everyone involved; but your relationship CAN be repaired. By gaining greater awareness of problematic communication patterns, you will learn how to really talk to one another in a nurturing and respectful manner.

You have no doubt attempted to solve your problems on your own. Our goal is to help you uncover the thoughts, feelings, and actions that though well-intentioned, may be contributing to personal pain or distress in your couple relationship. It is likely you will be able to find joy in your life and your relationships.

With your help, we will work to uncover the patterns that seem to get you stuck in well-intentioned but problematic communication. The very way that individuals seek emotional safety leads to misunderstanding and defensive posturing that can develop into a circuitous and sometimes subtle pattern of relational stagnation for couples. We often encourage clients to read The Relationship Cure or The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work both by John Gottman, Ph.D. Gottman is famous for his ability to predict whether or not relationships will succeed based on observation of non-verbal communication. His work is well worth reading and may be incorporated into our assessment of your relationship.

In couples therapy, you can expect to change your dysfunctional communication styles as well as enhance and restore respect and trust in the relationship. As with other couples we have seen, you will likely see marked improvement in:

  • Communication with your partner
  • Recovering from infidelity; physical, emotional and internet-based
  • Negotiating differing parenting styles
  • Regaining the intimacy of early dating
  • Managing in-laws
  • Childrearing with positive reinforcement
  • Premarital conflict
  • Coping with family loss and chronic conditions like hearing loss, MS, Cancer